By Jonatas Dornelles
Anthropologist

In the field of sexual rapport, women are liable to difficulties as serious as men do. Most of them consider themselves unable to feel pleasure and reach out orgasm. Why does it happen?

Frequently these women feel ashamed in discussing any concern along with a partner. As result, they wind up by accepting a state of dissatisfaction because they can't garner the courage to suggest techniques that could bring out further pleasure.

This attitude is linked to an ol’ sex-related bias. For just as many out there, sex means something repugnant still, only accepted with great reserve. On the other hand, women who insist too much on heir independence towards preconceptions might adopt an obsessive stance in search for the perfect sexual relation.

The net result is that they can’t manage to make uncompromised love, detouring from their main goal- ultimate sex. Any excess of preoccupation regarding sex leads to thwarting.

Frigidity- as it’s called the woman’s incapability to reach out orgasm- can also be overcome if sex partners learn something about the lovemaking techniques. A crucial step it’s they unraveling those parts which are most caresses sensitive on her body. Those of which would induce stronger sex-related pleasure.

Yet frigidity might stem from discomfort in sexual relation by the women’s side.  They may not get moisten, or their lubrication may cease as soon as the penetration moment draws near- or shortly thereafter. Others contract involuntarily those muscles that surround the vaginal entrance. In which point renders penetration painful or even impossible.

In addition, a part of the modifications that take place during the growth process is the reshuffle of the mental image that we have of our own physical aspect. That requires a certain degree of effort during puberty, mostly from the girls, whose bodies alter so rapidly.

In the so-ideal society we would educate our children in such way that they would grow proud of the development of their talents, inclusive their sexual talents. Boundaries should be as ample as possible regarding all of which might be considered acceptable.  The children would not be artificially isolated from sex. Thus their interests should not take on much repress.

Due to previous inhibitions, whether related with the paternal image or not, perhaps the woman might not come to terms with the existence of the vagina as a pleasurable part of the human body.

The outcome might turn out as displeasure feelings upon the moment of penis insertion, as if the man was sticking some painful object in an intact surface of the body. Such women might be sexually competent under other aspects and yet able to masturbate themselves freely.

For most women, there could only reach orgasm with their own touch on the body. In these cases, masturbation becomes of hallmark importance for a healthy sexual life.

Frigidity may also be associated to an excessive emphasis on the privacy of the body and sex. Better yet, in the denial of the body attraction for the men, as insisted by the radical feminists.

This exaggerated prude may trigger a whole set of inhibitions. Thus self-acknowledgement and a frank conversation with the partner are cornerstones in overcoming frigidity.