By Adriana Sommer da Costa
Psychologist and Sexologist

The ever search of a woman for answers and/or solutions when it comes to sex and sexuality seems endless. Common-ground curiosities in spite of our discrepancies are shared in orgasm-reaching, contraceptives, infections sexually acquired, masturbation issues, non male orientated sexual positions and the elusive G-spot.

Boldly I gathered some of the most frequently tooted issues on sexuality. Bear with me while trying to shed light on sex-related issues for a blissful and soothing sexual life of the women largely.

What is the difference between vaginal and clitoral orgasm? Each individual responds differently to the same stimulation, so some women would feel rather pleasant with penetration, others with clitoral stimulation. Though there is no difference as such. It all boils down to the circumstances hence the woman is prone to react by all sort of manners.Never mind whether clitoral or vaginal, the most important thing is to unveil breaching it out anyhow. The lesson you could draw from that is to locate the pleasure-spot that gives off most and take from there and get on to implementing further your orgasm-reaching techniques regardless of its dwelling spot.  

What happens if unable to reach orgasm I could only manage through masturbation?

That for one may come labeled as wide spread sexual dysfunction sharing common ground amongst the women. This handicap can be caused by both organic and emotional factors. Thus, professional help from a sexual therapist along with adequate treatment customized for one’s sexual life, could unveil causes and problems treated, otherwise, it’s likely to go down hill.

As for masturbation, often it becomes a way of treatment, as of sexual therapy. Masturbation is wholesome healthy as part of sexual intercourse, providing it does not become mainstay by replacing sexual rapport altogether.  If it comes as the only source of sexual pleasure, a frank dialogue with partner would suffice to smooth the rough edges other than undergoing such a lengthy sex-therapy.

What about the G-spot? Any hint on location?

Roughly speaking, there is no such a thing as palpable definition for the G-spot. Anatomically, you probably already heard of our body’s erogenous zones, and the G-spot as far as erogenous zones go may be regarded as inner-vaginal. Its pleasure ridden and accordingly to accounts “it’s like a strong pee urge” as of the bladder. One can locate its elusive pleasure doom by searching alone or partner aided. It’s up to you.

Multiple orgasms mean everything in sex for all I care, what should I do?

Probably the best answer is nothing. Not all women can get multiple orgasms in only one cycle of sexual response.

Bear with me the human sexual capacity boils down to individual capabilities. It’s better a full-blown orgasm than many half-hearted ones. Our body chemistry driven by cerebral emissions is able to offer great moments and depending on your partner’s multiple orgasm might be in store.

Could the woman ejaculate when reaching orgasm?

Ejaculation stands for such a male orientated word, since the seminal fluid stems from the prostrate as of men.
Albeit, a lot is being heard on the so-called female ejaculation, once a great many of them soak up their bed sheets with their lubricant vaginal fluid. What in confront to orgasm becomes rather more abundant unlikely lubrication though. Yet it hinges on individual capabilities. It’s not simply a given name but though a huge amount of fluid flush through the vagina from foreplay to climax.

What’s the fuss about Anorgasmia?

There stands for such a sexual dysfunction, for all I care, quite frequent among women, which denotes itself by their difficulty in reaching orgasm.  Despite any given streak of sexual interest as well as satisfactorily response towards sex binges.  Anorgasmia may stem from a multitude of factors and, don’t get carried away, it affects as much as 50% up to 70% of the entire female population.  At the inner most level, the cause for Anorgasmia lingers to emotional background, and we could mention for instance- a lack of intimacy with own physical attributes, lax intimate links with partner, sternness on education that reflects itself through excessive self-contention, uneasiness in sex, pregnancy phobia, sexual violence or rape, low self-esteem, reading into things too much and taken unnecessary strain on board inevitably onto the relationship.

The recommended treatment is psychotherapy, which may be undergone either individually or altogether or the combination of both, depending on the case.

What would be so wrong in pulling out off ejaculation before done? Could I prevent pregnancy with it?

No, the sex act in the coitus interruptus is initiated but the penis is deliberately withdrawn before ejaculation as a contraceptive method. Therein the likelihood of bodily fluids exchanging lies if not safely guarded. Most of all, any given infection sexually transmitted lurks in there. Condoms rule.

What’s for me in Kelgi exercises?

This is the exercise routine whose main goal is the vaginal muscles’ strengthening hence optimal sexual life. For a healthy sexual life providing ourselves better muscular synergism as well for the benefit of self-esteem and after all respective partner.

Would it be possible to get pregnant by anal sex alone?

No way, if only anal-sex engaged since this duct does not lead to the uterus and therefore no sperm gets to fecundate the ovule but…it takes major care given if unprotected. We all know what thrives on in there and if so unprotected the in and out and shovel back in the vagina only increases the likelihood of cross-infection.

Safer sex, by the way, prevents any spermatozoa likely to stay alive up to 36 hrs post ejaculation is due from reaching out the ovule via anal pathways.