By Anne Griza
Psychologist and Sexologist

Not so long ago, to hold true that a woman would have compulsory sex only used to be common place, and even encouraged. Who would decide if and when to have sex was the man and to the women, were left to deal with the shaft. As subservient to their husbands, sex would never be refused to them.

A possible explanation for it can be found in the teachings of the Catholic Church, which used to promote sex as means reproductive in the light of increasing the amount of Christians and so population for labouring.

One might think that in these days and age it no longer exists, after all, the woman got set free from ties by the sexual revolution, back in the sixties. Actually, a lot was achieved in terms of sex for the women. They could finally let their hair out, enabled to reach climax without being deemed seedy. She could choose her mate, and yet, keep pregnancy at bay.

However, women hardly ever get into sex due to sexual crave. Most of them, amidst singles e married ones; remain latched onto a pattern of arousal for the man himself. The single ones for “clinching” onto the relationship, since they think that if they didn’t have sex with their best-half, he would go for other women, and those married ones, because sex is thought essential within marriage, even when they are not feeling up for it.  

A notion still remains into the mainstream that the man is who got the power over sexuality and that the woman should serve his more intimately purposes. We would agree on that in holding accountable the amount of women who can’t relax and lead such a satisfactory sex life.

This repertoire might sound macho-orientated however real. The woman knows that her partner won’t dwell on a night of loving, and she could do anything with him, just to keep him around. So such longing for keeping him beside isn’t linked to love-like feelings; it too could be done in need for holding up status quo, as to get whoever could help towards expenses or else, by the fear of being abandoned.

Every single fact in history of mankind has its bright and dark allies. In regard to womens lib, we could reason that ever since, the women have got more freedom for indulging into sex and their body. On the other hand, enjoying sex and getting into it was established mandatory, regardless of urges. And it’s known that desire for the woman means fundamental in reaching orgasm.  Once it isn’t in the body itself, but mostly on each woman’s mind.

Hence having to talk about sex isn’t so-farfetched reality for many women after all. Some might thrive on sex by believing in getting themselves fulfilled, but truly, are just seeking to match what is demanded from them nowadays, sexual availability. Too they sought in sex, solace to avoid putting their hubby/mate to waste.

Sex means health, and should be performed for pleasure purposes. A pleasure absent sex life isn’t healthy, and yet having sex shouldn’t be subjected to other intentions.